Emotional Flooding 101
Saturday, August 17, 2013 at 4:22PM
Lisa M. Hunter, M.A., LMFT in August, Couples, Marriage, Mindfulness, Mom & Dad, Relationships, Self-Care

 

We've all been there! Anger. Increased heart rate. Increased blood pressure. The secretion of adrenaline. Any kind of 'threat' (beit hunger or an emotional violation) creates the same physiological response as if someone were threatening you physically.  The logical, thoughtful part of your brain, the pre-frontal cortex, shuts down and the amygdala kicks in. The amygdala doesn't care what you think. There's no time for that! Its role is to get you the heck outta the situation (fight, flight, or freeze)! YOU CAN'T THINK CLEARLY OR HEAR WHAT YOUR PARTNER IS SAYING.

The solution: TAKE A 20-30 minute break. Don't ruminate about whatever the issue was during this break. Practice SELF-SOOTHING.  Agree to resume your talk later.

~Lisa

 

 

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