Are People Who Have Affairs LIARS?
Tuesday, August 13, 2013 at 12:00PM
Lisa M. Hunter, M.A., LMFT in August, Couples, Infidelity, Marriage, Relationships

"Oh what a tangled web we weave...."

Are people who have affairs LIARS? How could it be otherwise?

Discovering a trail of sexual encounters or emotional attachments is painful, but the lying and deception are the most appalling violations.

If you are married to someone who has been having an affair (either physical OR emotional), you have to be able to decipher if the lying is a consequence of this particular situation or an embedded personality trait that is a matter of character.

Lies of commission or lies of ommission? Either way they have a way of scaffolding.

Unfaithful partners report they are protecting their partners from the pain, but in actuality, they are protecting themselves from exposure and having to end the affair.

When the affair is discovered, COMING CLEAN and being upfront about the extent of the affair is the only way for the betrayed spouse to begin recover. FULL DISCLOSURE of significant facts needs to happen in the beginning stages of recovery.

~Lisa

 

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